Hello blog, it’s been awhile! I’ve been busy with some test, exam and stuff, but tonight is a Friday night, I’m alone in my room, listening to some my favorite old music while writing a paper, and that Monthy Python song’s played on my playlist. I love the lyrics that I put on the picture, “Always look on the bright side of life“…
Looking at some phenomenons that are happening nowadays, and looking at news headlines, media, and various social platforms, many of them brings so much negativity. Yes, we can’t close our eyes to the bad things that are happening in this world, that sometimes life really does contain bad things, too. Honestly, we also must have some unpleasant things happen in our life, at least once, right? So how do we stay positive in such a negative situations?
The most important thing to stay positive is to change our perspective on this world. Many people think that this world is a big, terrible place, where many bad things happen in any moments and it can ruin everything. The thing to do is, we have to mentally prepare ourself against the bad things that can happen–yes we are sure bad things might happen–but then, so what? You failed at one job interview, so what? You broke up with your boyfriend / girlfriend, so what? It’s not the end of the world, and you can still live a positive life even when bad things happen. Life is full of choices, and it is possible that when we lose one thing, we might be facing with even better possibilities.
Let’s say you failed at a job interview or maybe even you lose your job, do not think, if I do not have a job how can I live? How do I pay the bills? Do not look at it from that point of view. Just think that this might be an opportunity to start a new thing, maybe look for work in a field you more passionate about, or create a new small business that you once dreamed of, or even just go out there on some adventures. Just believe things will always work out, you just have to make it work. And you also should not be too stressed on every problem, because if you know the solution to the problem, what’s the point of worrying. Worrying is not gonna solve your problem, and it’s not going to get you anywhere, it’s just going to make you miserable. So please stop worrying about the bad things.
Then the next thing you have to do is, always be grateful. If you feel sad that your nose is big, or you have a narrow little eyes or you have acne, think for a moment about people who doesn’t even have a nose or eyes or skin that burnt, well, they can’t even complain about what you complain. If you are sad that your friend forgot your birthday then think about people who doesn’t even know when they were born. Be grateful, and thank God for what He has gave you and you will feel much, much better.
Next, the thing you should do to stay positive is to always do good to others. Even if they are not kind and mean to you. This may be very difficult, but this is an important thing, because you attract what you put out there. If you always give goodness, no matter what happens, it will always attract back to you. I myself feel that it is very difficult to do good especially to people who have hurt our feelings. But we should keep trying, at least for the sake of ourself, because it will make you feel a lot better, and maybe make them realize that what they are doing is wrong. DO NOT ever put a grudge against anyone else, because your life will not be peaceful because of it.
The next important thing to stay positive is you have to keep your positive attitude. When you get upset about things, you need to learn to just let it go. It is really easy to dwell on things that make you upset, but it just makes things worse. To do this may be quite difficult, but you can learn to calm yourself, just breathe and move on. Being annoyed and upset will only have a negative impact on you. Sometimes it is okay to be angry and it is okay to be sad, but it’s really important to know when it’s time to let it go and move on, do not let that dragging you down and down and down. Just keep in mind that you deserve to be happy.
Another thing to stay positive is to get rid of all negativity in your life. In this case I mean EVERYTHING. If there are people who always make you feel bad about yourself, always make you sad, and manipulative towards you, then you should know when enough is enough. It will be difficult to cut off people in your life, but when you liberated from such a person, then you will feel a lot better. Get closer to people with positive mind, and attitude as well. Cutting off negativity also includes all objects, or negative memories that exist in your life. There are people who always keep some items that have sentimental value, but if that items bring bad memories, you better throw them away. Forget it, and move on.
Lastly, to stay positive, you should be able to do things that make you happy. Sometimes you do not do things that make you happy because you feel you don’t deserve that, it is only wasting money, time, and energy. But this is very important thing to do, maybe it can be cooking, shopping, traveling or anything that makes you happy, just do it, at least once in a while. So find whatever it is to make you happy, and do that. And don’t ever regret or apologize for doing the things that make you happy. Because you can always choose, and you deserve to be happy. You can choose to see good things in life or bad things in life, it’s up to you. But always think that nothing is really ever bad as it seems.
I hope that you have an amazing day that’s filled with happiness and positivity. Do not let negativity take over you! And remember that you are in control of your happiness and you are the one that has to choose to find it.